What the hell is sexual counseling?

Are you wondering about your own sexual orientation or gender experience? Do you have erection or arousal problems? Do differing sexual desires cause friction in your relationship?

These are fairly typical examples of situations that lead to seeking sexual counseling. Sexual counseling is usually also helpful to the client in these types of situations.

Find your own strength

A sex counselor is a trained professional who makes it safe for you to discuss your situation, at your own pace and on your own terms. Confidentiality is always a key part of sex counseling, and there is nothing you can't talk about with a professional.

Despite their name, sexual counselors are not just there to give advice, but to help and support the client or clients in seeking and finding their own answers to the situation.

The sexual counseling process usually takes two to five sessions, but the service is always tailored to the client's needs. Often, just one or two sessions can help open locks, find new perspectives, and notice something that you may have missed on your own. Don't be alone with your situation!

Low-threshold support

When seeking sexual counseling, there doesn't have to be a major problem for which you seek help. Sexual counseling is specifically intended to support a very low threshold. There is no concern so small that it doesn't deserve to be heard. No matter what issue you are considering related to sexuality or sex, sexual counseling may be just for you.

There is not always a clear problem that leads to seeking sexual counseling. In sexual counseling, the client's situation or questions can be worked on together, even if the client does not recognize the actual problem, at least initially.

In some situations, something may come up during the process that cannot be resolved through sexual counseling alone. In such cases, the sexual counselor may recommend that the client seek sexual therapy, for example.

Alone and together

You can seek sexual counseling alone or as a couple/multiple people.

It's easy to think that there are personal problems and relationship problems, and only things that are considered purely relationship problems require working together. Of course, it's good to deal with relationship-related issues together with your partner or partners, but when in a relationship, everyone's own situation or problems are inevitably reflected in the relationship or polyamorous relationship.

For example, erectile dysfunction is not just a man's or penis's problem, but a shared issue between the parties in the relationship. There are often many factors at play that it is good to work on together. Shared discussions also create understanding between the parties in the relationship.

However, you can always come to sexual counseling alone, no matter what your relationship situation or need for sexual counseling is. Sometimes, especially at first, it can be easier to say things out loud that you have never been able to put into words before.

Permission to speak

At a sex counselor's appointment, discussing sex or sexuality-related issues is as natural as any other topic.

It is very common for couples, for example, to have a difficult conversation about sex, even if they have been together for a long time. They don't always have the words or courage to start the conversation. A sex counselor gives permission to talk and guides the situation in a direction that will help them move forward together.

Sometimes it may also be that there is no one in your life with whom it would be natural to talk about your own sexuality or sex-related issues. A sexual counselor can also be a listener and support you in finding or strengthening your own direction.

Conversation , no touch

Sexual counseling can involve very touching conversations, but physical touching of the client or sexual counselor is never part of counseling work.

Sexual counseling is based on discussion. The sexual counselor can make suggestions about what might be useful in the client's situation. The client decides for themselves whether the suggested thing would be suitable for their life. Sometimes, for example, different sexual methods or positions can be discussed, but the potential experimentation of these is naturally left to the client to try independently at home.

The physical integrity of both the sexual counselor and the client is a key issue for both parties in a safe professional encounter. The principles of a safer space, including respect for diversity and autonomy, are also an important part of professional work.

Professional strengths

People who train to become sex counselors come from a wide variety of backgrounds and starting points. Sex counselors can be found, for example, among healthcare and social care professionals. The sex counselor's educational background and any other work they may have naturally influence what kinds of things the professional is most familiar with or what their approach to sex counseling is.

At Erotiikan Aika, sex aids, sex toys and other pleasure tools are at the heart of our everyday lives. Many people seeking sexual counseling may be particularly interested in the world of tools. As part of sexual counseling, we can also take a look at our store's selection and consider how different sex tools might suit your situation.

However, no theme of sexuality is strange or foreign to us, whether it's an encounter in a store or actual sexual counseling.

Excitement in the air

Many people may wonder whether they dare to seek sexual counseling or whether their issue is one that would be suitable for sexual counseling.

You can and should come to sexual counseling completely on your own, and you don't have to be "ready" in any way when you come to a sexual counseling session. The purpose of sexual counseling is to work on things that are bothering the client at all. The counseling is also always based on the client's own needs. The sexual counselor will tell you if the client's situation could require the help or knowledge of another professional.

We understand that new situations are always exciting and that sexuality is a particularly sensitive and private area for people. The professionalism of a sexual counselor includes sensitivity, and we do our best to make sure that you feel good and safe.

Sexual counseling is ultimately a conversation with a trained professional, nothing more serious than that. In the sexual counseling process, we always go at the client's pace and respect their boundaries. The client has space to be completely themselves.

Take care of your own sexual health, you are worth it!

Contact us if you need help dealing with sexuality themes. We are here for you.